Six steps to becoming an alpha male, according to romance consultant Angie Ang

Romance consultant Angie Ang cocks her head sideways, wobbling her ear-rings. “So, you want to be an alpha male?” A cloud of smooth hair comes rumpling over her shoulders and her glorious eyes blaze out upon Simon See.

Garbed in a checked button-down shirt, Simon nods, interest flickering in his pale eyes. “I want to be successful in the boardroom and bedroom.” His voice is as empty as the telephone that tells you the time. Then his eyes drift away, to look out the window behind Angie. Outside, the afternoon sun is vividly highlighting the fleecy clouds in the horizon.  

Simon and Angie are sitting in the latter’s office in Pavilion Tower, KL, an architectural gem plonked in the city’s traffic-snarled Golden Triangle.

Angie leans forward on her shiny desk and rests one palm on the side of her face. “First, posture. Do you sit straight, walk straight, hold your chin up? These are the elements of power posing. In 2010, Harvard University and Columbia  University published a paper in Psychological Science titled ‘Power Posing.’Now, the gist of the research. The researchers found that power postures give people a temporary rise in testosterone that leads to a sense of power, more self-confidence and desire for risk-taking.”

“I see.”

“So, in a party, social gathering, even in your own office, don’t sit with your chin down and shoulders hunched. These are low-power postures. Pull your chest up, don’t sit with legs closed, but legs apart. Hands on the armrests like a king on a throne. Likewise, walk into a room or a bar with a commanding presence and babes will snatch glances at you. Change your body posture and you’ll change the way you feel and act. You get the drift?"

Simon squares his shoulders. “Gee. I feel more confident already.”

“Second, eye contact. Don’t be afraid to look at people in the eye. When a babe is talking with you, never look at the ground, at her feet or the space behind her.” Angie locks her gaze with Simon’s with kohl-lined eyes. “Look at her in the eye for as long as possible, shift your gaze to her lips, or some other part of the face for a beat, then focus on her eyes again.”

“Can I look at her cleavage?”

“Sheesh! You’re a horny bastard!” The whites of Angie’s eyes expand. “An alpha male has self-control and self-respect and respect for women. He doesn't grovel for women but women are attracted to him because of admirable qualities.  Okay?” A grin inches across Angie’s face, turns into a sly smile and her dimples deepen with the lift of the smile. “Third, less is more when it comes to talking. An alpha male does not chatter like an ape or jokes endlessly like a stand-up comedian. He says what’s necessary in a relaxed manner, then he shuts up and becomes a good listener.  Always speak slowly and in a deep low voice. Don’t talk like a telemarketer or a life insurance fucker!  Speak like a newscaster.”   

Simon shifts in his seat. “Gee, I must tape my own voice and listen to it.”

“Also observe how alpha male characters in movies talk--try to emulate them.” Angie smoothens her hair with one hand, her silver watch knocking light into Simon’s eyes. “Next, invest in mature-looking clothing—power dressing.  Prefer darker shades or neutral colours rather than loud colours. T-shirts with profanities or bones-and-skull or childish designs are a no-no for every occasion. The alpha male is not rugged or hip or groovy. He is smart-looking but not any of the three unless it fits the occasion. The alpha male smells nice and—where Chinese girls are concerned—has no facial hair.”

Simon’s eyes narrow with the intensity of one who has a secret to share. “I myself don’t like men who hide behind moustaches.”

“Now, money. The alpha male has financial IQ, never over-spends, is never hounded by his bankers. He doesn’t squander his salary by gambling or whore-mongering or happy-ending massages or on naked webcam girls. But, for instance, he may visit a nightclub once a month—that’s it—he knows the limit to his budget. An alpha male does not seek an advance salary from his employer because of poor financial skills. That's shameful.  No matter how high his income is, he doesn’t spend recklessly, but saves for a rainy day." 

“An alpha male need not be a rich man’s son?”

“A self-made man can be an alpha male but a lounge lizard is not an alpha male.”

“Lounge lizard?” Simon scratches the back of his head. “What’s that?” He spears Angie with a quizzical stare.

Angie taps her keyboard at her side table, punches ENTER and flicks her gaze at the computer screen.  “The Collins Dictionary describes a lounge lizard as” — she points at the computer screen with a dainty finger—“an indolent, pleasure-seeking man who frequents lounges, nightclubs, etc. where rich people or socialites gather.’” She tosses her gaze back at Simon, her eyes twinkling like tiger’s eye gemstones. “Lastly, the alpha male is always bettering himself, upgrading his skills and knowledge. He reads self-help books or watches self-improvement videos on YouTube, or does whatever that improves himself. He also does things that are praise-worthy.”

“Such as?”

Angie leans back in her chair and tugs the lapels of her dress with both hands. “Volunteer work at his church, rescuing a stray puppy in a drain, helping a blind man cross a busy road, donating food to monks, donating blood, raising funds for a charity, and lots, lots more. I’m sure you can think of others. Post your good deeds on Facebook or Instagram and, soon, hot babes will adore you. In the animal kingdom, the alpha male is a badass, but in the human world, the alpha male commands respect through noble deeds, not by being brutish.” She pauses and releases an exhale. “That’s all my advice.”

Simon pulls out his wallet, leaves several bills on the desk, and jackknifes to his feet. “Thanks for the invaluable tips.”

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